My Life With Dr Julia R Burdge

I did not mention in any public documents, including the entire Hague Convention court proceedings, Julia Burdge's sexual orientation/inclination. I wanted her to bring up the subject in a public document first, which in my view and the laws' view gives me a free hand in bringing to light the rest of the story. She first broaches the subject in the court papers for divorce filled in the Sixth Judicial Circuit Court of Pasco County, Florida, Case No: 5-2007DR00264785 Division L. Reference the "Court Answer" presented earlier in this website. In the divorce papers she claims that I have accused her of being a lesbian which is true, I have. What you don't find in her court papers or any where else is a flat out denial of it. Since she referenced the accusation but did not deny it I took the liberty in my "Answer" to the court to explain her sexual orientation myself which you will find interesting reading material earlier in this site.

In an email she sent me around January/February of 2007 she stated "as god is my witness no one but me has realigned her brain cells since 1983" which was our way of saying I was the only one who had given her multiple orgasms stated in my Court Answer. I felt that was probably the truth since she put in "as god as my witness" in the statement. I also put in the Court Answer that her statement may be true, but it also may not be because she had not tried with some individual and just did not get satisfaction from the act regardless of what it was. I was still puzzled about her behavior and statements she had made during our 24 years of marriage and something still did not fit until recently when I read an article by Dr. Gail Saltz. Dr. Gail Saltz is a psychiatrist with New York Presbyterian Hospital and a regular contributor to TODAY. Her latest book is “Anatomy of a Secret Life: The Psychology of Living a Lie”. She is also the author of “Amazing You! Getting Smart About Your Private Parts,” which helps parents deal with preschoolers’ questions about sex and reproduction. Her first book, “Becoming Real: Overcoming the Stories We Tell Ourselves That Hold Us Back,” was published in 2004 by Riverhead Books.

Dr Saltz states; "A recent study shows that bisexuality for women is not a stepping-stone toward lesbianism. There is a group of women who have an attraction to both sexes, and it stays that way their entire lives (The research was only about women, not men). So it’s a myth that women who have some attraction to women, as well as to men, will necessarily end up gay. They are on the continuum of bisexuality and will remain so.” She continues on by saying, “There are, of course, women who are gay but feel so uncomfortable with their sexuality, or who so desire a conventional lifestyle, that they try to live as heterosexuals”. In retrospect over the years I now believe that Dr Burdge may not be a lesbian but she most certainly fits the profile of a bisexual woman. This piece of her life puzzle fits perfectly into place given the sum total of all her behavior in her physical actions, statements, and eye contacts I observed over 24 years. Her desire to be part of both the gay community in Palm Beach and the straight community all in the same day in the year before we broke up was in her way I think her"coming out notice" which at that time I did not understand. I think everyone she was close to but me knew of her personality. I was and I'm proud to say still living in the past when men and women are suppose to be together and not all the above of today's society.